Apr 25, 2023

How to Cope with “Unattractive” Moments

Girl doesn't like her appearance in mirror

Do you ever look in the mirror and see “blah” or “ugh” instead of “mmm” or “wow!” All of us feel like this once in a while. These “unattractive” or “less-than-glowing” moments may be brought on because of recent events, a mood or emotions.

An argument with a loved one may make you look angry or tense.

A late night out, might make may look extra tired.

After an illness, your face may look drawn or pale.

And in the words of famed author, Cheryl Strayed, sometimes it’s okay to not be okay.  Temporary feelings of being unattractive can quickly change with a few simple things like chatting with a good friend, being part of a community or group or getting more rest!

If you often feel unattractive, you may be guilty of comparing yourself to an unrealistic norm, such as a movie star or a supermodel. Although we cannot change society’s definition of beauty, we can change how we feel about the way we look. Developing positive self-talk and practicing self-care can help you change your self-image from negative to positive.

Listen to Your Self-Talk

Self-talk is the narrative running through our heads that includes conscious and unconscious observations, instructions and responses to ourselves and the world around us.

Self-talk can be negative or positive. It can influence how we view ourselves and interact with others.

If you notice you are engaging in negative self-talk, think about the message you are sending yourself. Would you say these things to a partner, child or good friend? If not, we urge you to treat yourself as you would treat someone you care about.

Instead of focusing on the negative, try looking at the event neutrally. Practice transitioning from a negative response to a neutral or positive one.

To change from negative to positive self-talk, be aware of the triggers that set off a negative reaction. Have you made a mistake at work? Has someone made a derogatory comment about your looks? The way you react reflects the way you feel about yourself. If your boss criticizes your work, negative self-talk may be, “I am so inept.” To turn it into positive self-talk, use the correction as a way to find more efficient ways to complete a task. Ask, “What can I learn from this? How can I do better next time?”

Focus on a Positive Attribute

If you tend to concentrate on a negative attribute when you look in the mirror, change your focus. Surely you have features that you just love! Instead of seeing that your nose is too long, look at the beautiful coloring of your complexion. Do you have long eyelashes or unusually shaped eyebrows that give you a distinctive look? Allow yourself to enjoy these attributes. Let yourself shine.  The emotion emanates from the brain and courses through your entire body, sending chemical signals that affect your mood and increase happiness.

Go beyond your face, and think about your other positive attributes. What are you good at? What positive things do you do? Appreciate yourself for who you are, the image that you project and the characteristics that make you unique. Turn a perceived flaw into a strength. When you see the positive, you boost your sense of self-worth. This nurtures your inner self, which defines who you are. Exuding positive energy and joy is felt by those around you, who will respond positively in turn.

Practice Self-Care

When you think of self-care, do you associate it with self-indulgence or pampering? Self-care is so much more. There are several forms of self-care that nurture the whole self—the mind, emotions, spirit and physical body. Self-care for women is particularly important because women are usually the nurturers and caregivers for their families and other loved ones. Women often put themselves last, skimping on sleep, exercise and taking time out to relax and enjoy the meaningful things in life.

To start a self-care routine, include the basic elements that support physical and mental health, including a good diet, beauty sleep, physical exercise, positive self-talk and taking time out for yourself. Develop a beauty routine that keeps your skin’s microbiome healthy and brings out the best in your complexion and features.

TrūAura can help! Our clinically tested skincare products help you look and feel your best. When you feel good about yourself, your self-image and self-talk become positive. The Core Skincare package includes Nourishing Cleanser, Refreshing Tonic, Replenishing Day Lotion and Replenishing Night Cream. In just a few weeks, you should notice the results—reduced wrinkles, smoother skin and improved skin tone and firmness.

After cleansing and moisturizing, try Clean Color makeup. You can opt for a no-makeup look, using sheer foundation, eye-enhancing color for lids and blush in a choice of shades.

Our mission is to help empower others and our community of Brand Ambassadors and Brand Partners offers a positive environment for all to learn and look and feel their best

When you look in the mirror, take time to appreciate your glowing, attractive complexion and features. Appreciate your TrūAura!

Give Thanks for What You Have

Taking stock of the joys and benefits of your life helps you feel good about yourself and your life. Think about what you have instead of what you do not have. Appreciate your positive relationships, your family and your home. Be thankful for good health, a clear mind or a supportive spouse. Giving thanks, thinking positive thoughts and practicing gratefulness have positive physical and mental effects.

At TrūAura, we want each person to look and feel their best. Our products are infused with healthy ingredients, such as prebiotics, probiotics, vitamins, minerals, essential fatty acids and extracts from herbs and flowers. The result is healthy, vibrant-looking skin that helps you feel good about yourself.

To find out more about our products or connect with a personal Brand Partner, contact the friendly staff at TrūAura.